Starting over or as I refer to it, hitting the reset button is easy. There is nothing wrong with starting over. Some people think starting over is hard but I disagree. Starting over means that you fell down and got back up. Starting over means that you had to change your plans and try a new thing to get the outcome you want. I would rather start over many times than to be stuck in a situation, relationship, or life that is not going anywhere. Starting over my friends is a good thing as it allows us to reassess and make a new plan.
Moving on in relationships has never been hard for me. I firmly believe that when a person shows you who they really are or gives you their butt to kiss then there is no reason for you to continue giving that person your time and energy. I will put a person in the asshole box real quick and won't feel bad about it. The problem we have with moving on is that we want to dwell on the situation and analyze all of the what ifs, when in fact all you need to do is realize your worth and what you bring to the table.
Letting go to me is the hardest. Letting go requires us to purge our feelings. Letting go requires us to acknowledge a hurt or a loss. Letting go requires us to either forgive or ask for forgiveness. I recently spent time with my dad during Father's Day weekend and I was finally able to let go of so much resentment. My dad and I have started over in our relationship and it's all good. If you are hanging on to anger, resentment, betrayals, past hurts and loss -LET IT GO! Letting go frees you up to allow love and light in your life. How do you let go? Well that depends on what you are letting go but it all starts with prayer. Prayer for release of the hurt. The next step is acceptance. Accepting that what happened, happened (insert adult pity party here). There will come a point in time when you will think on that hurt and it won’t make your chest hurt or want to throat punch somebody that is when you know you have moved on.
As I prepare my mind to say goodbye to an incredible woman it will not be easy for me to start this service year without getting an email from her with my assignment. It will not be easy for me to move on and not see her at our state conference. I pray that I never let go of our last encounter which was getting inducted into the Hall of Fame for our beloved sorority. I will miss you and honor your legacy always Karen Blount. Rest in heaven my friend!