I can remember as a child thinking that being grown was just getting old enough to be an adult. As a teen, it was turning 18 and getting out of my parents house. No rules, just freedom! Then somewhere along my 20's I realized that being grown was not as fun as I thought it would be. I had to be an adult. I had bills and responsibilities. I had a husband. In my 30's it was this awakening of there has to be more to life than just work and bills. There were disappointments. The deaths of my grandmother and father-in-law hurt to my very bottom of my heart. Those losses tested my marriage ( we are still standing after almost 18 years together).
See what I learned is that it is not your age that makes you grown but the life experiences that you go through. These experiences can grow you into a fierce and fabulous woman or they can tear you a part. I gained maturity, wisdom and confidence. That's being grown! Now let's talk about the woman part.
I didn't truly become a woman until my 30's. What do I mean by that? I'm glad you asked. A lot of women I know will define their moment of womanhood at the point that they had their first child. I am childless. In my 30's I felt like I came alive. Everything that I went through made me stronger. Made me appreciative. I embraced my womanhood and got real comfortable with who LaShonda is and who I wanted to be. I gained this inner strength. I embraced my sexy. I became a woman the moment I recognized that I'm the shit. Guess what, you're the shit too! Let's put it together. We become grown by having life experiences. We become women by owning who we are. Sound off in the comments and let me know when you became a grown woman...you can also post on our FACEBOOK page.
Be Blessed and Fabulous!